My wicked awesome next door neighbour and I were hanging out the other day in her driveway with our babies. It was a hot sunny day, unusually so for late September. The visit was short, only about half an hour or so, but it was SO MUCH FUN. Not kidding you, it was the highlight of my day. Last night we were hanging out again, contemplating how something so mundane could be so much fun. She noted that when we were kids, fun was measured by how long something lasted, how much action there was, whether or not you were up past 2 a.m. She thought it was funny that now, a quiet evening at home with her family or a 30 minute chat on an otherwise busy day could bring the same amount of enjoyment as an all night house party, or a long night of dancing at some bar downtown. My spouse thinks that perhaps as you get older, any respite from responsibility feels like so much fun. Like, wow, I'm not in an office at 9 a.m. trying to teach some old guy how to send an email. Or, wow, I'm not cooking while doing the dishes while trying to comfort a screaming baby who just.won't.sleep. Hell yea, sitting on hot asphalt with a great friend sounds a LOT better than that.
While I love relaxing and getting a bit of down time with friends, sometimes I wish I could be productive at the same time as I'm being social. Turns out, there's a great way to do that! Well, depending on what you consider productive. It won't work if you're a welder, but works great if you're a writer. I'm talking about a writing jam! Or a drawing jam, knitting jam, excel spreadsheet jam (if that's what you're into). I'm so excited I've finally found a friend here who wants to go to a coffee shop and hang out and write. Not talk, just do some productive work for pleasure. I used to do this all the time in Newfoundland with my fellow drawers and writers, but since I moved here I haven't really found anyone who enjoys working while hanging out with friends (I know right, wtf? Who doesn't love to work instead of converse?)
It's not for everybody, that for sure. There are a lot of people who either need alone time to work, or are just too into chatting to be able to get'er done. However, when you find someone that it does work with, the results can be fantastic. Not only are you not being a social reject, isolated and alone with your pathetic ideas, you actually have a second mind to bounce said ideas off of. I'm never as creative on my own as I am when I'm working along side others. Eskimark, //d, Jackie, Bekki, Lacey, I'm thinking of yous guys. The creative energy that develops when two (or more) people are involved is so inspiring, so motivating... I can't wait to be at it again on a regular basis. It's one of those things that makes me feel like my "old" self (pre-Myriam), and it's also a wonderful way to keep the creativity alive. Less like a shriveled old raisin in the back of your mind, more like a juicy bunch of grapes, where each grape is a different idea. Right? Right? (This is one of those times where I need a second mind to bounce my pathetic ideas and lame jokes off of). Does anyone else love to do this, or is it just me and my anti-social friends? Here's an antique photo of me when I was like, 23. My friend //d took it one night when we were having a design jam. Thanks D!!!